A slower love may be happier. The boy met her with the same frequency in the exploration.

Although Liang Fei (pseudonym) has not read many books, he is a very hard-working young man. After several years of social experience, Liang Fei finally had his own career, and his family began to worry about his marriage. Although Liang Fei usually dresses up like a bachelor who has no one to take care of him, in fact, he has already met a nice girl on the scout.
The girl’s name is Linlin (a pseudonym). She is cute in appearance and not gentle in character, but she knows that she cares about people. Her biggest dream is to find a husband who loves and takes care of herself. For Linlin, a husband doesn’t need to be too handsome or too rich, but he must be a man who particularly dotes on his wife.
Liang Fei and Linlin have known each other for a long time, but both of them are traditional and conservative people, so their relationship is progressing relatively slowly. After knowing each other for three months, Liang Fei and Linlin started video chatting. After knowing each other for half a year, they met for the first time. It took them a year to know each other before they officially confirmed their relationship.
When Liang Fei just stepped into the society, he was also an affectionate teenager who really wanted to fall in love. However, after several endless love affairs, Liang Fei finally realized that the key to a reliable relationship is to meet someone with the same frequency. If you slow down a little, you may be able to see a person’s character and conduct more clearly.
Later, Liang Fei met Linlin on exploration. This time, Liang Fei didn’t rush to tell Linlin, but started with Linlin as friends. After getting to know Linlin better, Liang Fei tried to show Linlin his mind. Until this time, Liang Fei didn’t say those three words to Linlin, because he was not sure whether he liked or loved Linlin at the moment.
Linlin is a slow girl, and Liang Fei and Linlin are people with the same frequency. His slow pace left a very good impression on Linlin, and she thought Liang Fei would be a more reliable boy. So, Linlin also agreed to Liang Fei’s meeting request, and the two began to formally date.
As ordinary people, the form and process of dating are roughly the same. Liang Fei is not a romantic man, and he doesn’t know what emotional appeal is, but he is more careful. And Linlin won’t play the woman, won’t pretend to be gentle in front of the person she likes, but she really cares about Liang Fei’s life.
After Liang Fei and Linlin confirmed the relationship, Liang Fei changed a lot. He changed from a rough man dressed casually to a clean and decent boy. Even when he went out to talk about things, his business partners were more confident in their cooperation. And Linlin is really happy like a princess. She can be coaxed and used by Liang Fei when she loses her temper. She can boss Liang Fei around when she is unhappy, and she will be gently held in her arms by Liang Fei when she is uncomfortable …
Once upon a time, cars and horses were slow, and I only loved one person in my life. In fact, in a fast-paced life, slower love may be more happy. There are many single brothers and sisters who are practical and reliable. If you are single, you will definitely meet the ta who "slows down" with you.
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Cold knowledge! Why are you afraid of snow in skiing competitions?

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There was fierce fighting in the Winter Olympics, and snow fell in Zhangjiakou on the 12th. What is the impact of snowfall on snow projects? How do each division respond to ensure the smooth progress of the event?
Reporter’s visit:
Natural snowfall is fluffy and humid.
Funa is more suitable for competition.
Xu Mengzhe, a reporter from the General Station: In fact, the impact of natural snowfall on competitions, especially snow events, is quite great. This is fresh snow, very fluffy, and it is humid.
Xu Mengzhe, a reporter from the reception desk: Look at the floor below. This is our funa. It is very hard, and our snowplow has been pressed many times. This is what meets the requirements of our athletes’ competition. Therefore, the staff are clearing the floating snow, which can ensure the normal operation of our games and reduce the probability of athletes being injured.
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Snowfall will affect the track and visibility
Why are you afraid of snow in skiing competitions? First of all, snow will affect the track. First, the temperature rise accompanied by snow will affect the temperature and quality of snow on the track, so the types and amount of waxing of athletes’ skis need to be adjusted accordingly. Second, the new snow brought by snowfall will make the surface of the track soft and increase the friction, which is not conducive to the players’ play. However, the visibility is low in snowy weather, which will affect the sight of athletes and referees. Especially for high-speed skaters, it is very dangerous. So, to what extent will the snowfall stop the game? The reporter learned from the track management that this has nothing to do with the amount of snow, but it needs the consistency of the snow surface of the track to reach a certain standard before stopping the race. There will be professionals responsible for checking and judging.
Genting ski park:
Ski doctors are all in battle
Can be transported in the first time.
On the 12th, Genting Ski Park ushered in the mixed team final of snowboarding obstacle pursuit in the snowstorm. Genting Stadium Group also conducted official training. All 138 medical staff were on duty, and on the snowy road with slope obstacle skills of more than 400 meters, four medical teams and two standby teams were waiting.
National ski jumping center leveled the track.
Snow and wind protection
Snowflakes also fell on the 12th at the National Ski-jumping Center, which is known as "the snow is pleasant". Before the snow stopped, the operation support team began to level the track. They pressed and stepped on the track to provide a safe track environment for athletes to land. Some people worry that if the snowfall is accompanied by strong winds, how can the "snow is good" be countered? It turns out that the valley of Chongli ancient poplar has a natural drop of more than 130 meters, and there are mountains on both sides that can shield or weaken the wind, and the construction of windbreak in the later period ensures that the wind speed in the take-off area of the site is below 4 meters per second.
Wind and snow blowing operation in National Cross-country Skiing Center
Clear the snow trough
On the 12th, the National Cross-country Skiing Center also held the women’s 4x5km relay race, in which the athletes used the opened snow chute. If there is snow in the snow chute, it will greatly affect the skating speed and performance of the athletes.
The mountain operation team of the venue started the emergency mechanism in advance, arranged a 20-person snow removal team to blow snow on the 5 km track to fully guarantee the operation of the event.
Source: CCTV news client
Trainee Editor: Bo Xun
Audit: Yang Ye
Coordinator: Sun Jiawei
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Why did the year-on-year decline in lottery sales suddenly get cold in December? Where will the future go?

Two sets of contradictory data: year-on-year decline and year-on-year increase of lottery tickets …

Just now, the Ministry of Finance announced that the national lottery sales in December last year was 53.284 billion yuan, a year-on-year decrease of 8.565 billion yuan and a year-on-year decrease of nearly 14%.

Why did the year-on-year decline in lottery sales suddenly get cold in December? Where will the future go?

According to the data, the total lottery sales amount increased last year, and the growth rate was as high as 36.5%.

-Why did the lottery ticket, whose sales trend rose as a whole, suddenly get cold in December?

We may find clues from a lottery incident in Jiangxi.

Let’s review the 220 million yuan lottery event in Jiangxi.

On December 2, 2023, a lottery player in Jiangxi spent 100,000 yuan to buy 220 million yuan in the lottery, becoming an unprecedented lucky dog.

Why did the year-on-year decline in lottery sales suddenly get cold in December? Where will the future go?

This lottery event soon became a hot spot. Then, it is a constant voice of doubt, followed by! !

There are many doubts about the winning event, and public opinion has focused on at least three points:

First, who will suddenly spend 100,000 yuan to buy lottery tickets? This doesn’t make sense in the logic of normal people’s thinking. Even the old lottery players would not be so bold.

Second, how did the winners "accurately bet" the same group of numbers, and they got 220 million yuan in luck. Look carefully, that is, betting on the same group of numbers, without avoiding the risk of betting at all, that is, putting eggs in the same basket.

Third, the grand prize triggered risk control, and you can receive all the bonuses of more than 220 million yuan without paying taxes. This is not an insider, and it is estimated that no one really knows this rule.

Why did the year-on-year decline in lottery sales suddenly get cold in December? Where will the future go?

The share price of zero-run cars has risen against the trend: since the beginning of the year, it has raised funds frequently, and its future development prospects are optimistic.

It is reported that Zero Car (09863) rose more than 5% in late trading. As of the close of 26th, the share price of Zero Car rose 5.31% to HK$ 22.8, with a turnover of HK$ 120 million.

In the news, Zero Run delivered 18,618 vehicles in December, which was +119%/+1% compared with the previous month. In 2023, a total of 144,155 units were delivered, and more than 300,000 units have been delivered since its establishment. In addition, the zero run C10 was pre-sold on January 10th. According to the analysis, 2025 will be the year of zero-running cars, and it is expected that 5 or 6 brand-new products will be launched.

In the same period, it was learned that the latest sales data of new power brands in China market was released, and the performance of zero-running cars attracted people’s attention. As of the 21st of this month, the cumulative sales volume of zero-run cars in the first three weeks of this month has reached 0.81 million units, which is in the forefront of the sales volume of the new power camp. This means that the sales volume of zero-run cars will soon exceed the 10,000-unit mark this month, which also indicates the strong start of the brand’s sales volume in 2024, and the strong sales volume will also boost the stock price of zero-run cars.

Not only that, in the latest sales ranking of new power brands, the performance of zero-running cars is better than that of Weilai Automobile (06,600) and Xpeng Motors (04,600), showing strong market competitiveness, and it is also ahead of many competitive brands such as Krypton, Tengshi, Lantu and Zhiji. In the popular new energy vehicle market, the zero-run vehicle has won the recognition and love of more and more consumers with its advanced intelligent electric technology, the ultimate price-to-price ratio advantage and the precise layout of pure electricity and extended-range dual power. The share price of the zero-run vehicle also ushered in a change and stopped falling against the trend.

It is worth noting that since the second half of 2023, zero-run cars have raised funds frequently. Among them, in October 2023, Stellantis Group, the parent company of Citroen, invested about 1.5 billion euros (about 12.36 billion Hong Kong dollars) to acquire about 20% equity of zero-run cars. In January, 2024, Zero Run Auto received 600 million financing from Jinhua Industrial Fund and Wuyi County Jintou, and the subscription premium was nearly 70%. As the news came out, the share price of zero-run cars also rose.

Prior to this, the share price of zero-run cars fluctuated. However, after the announcement of the financing news, the share price of the zero-run car showed an upward trend. It is reported that Jinhua Industrial Fund and Wuyi County Jintou will invest HK$ 659 million in Zero Car by subscribing for H shares and domestic shares. These funds will be mainly used for R&D investment, marketing, improving production capacity, working capital and general corporate purposes.

According to the data, as of the close of January 19, the share price of Zero Run Automobile was HK$ 25.8 per share. It is clearly stated in the announcement that the subscription price of this H share is HK$ 43.8 per share, which is a substantial premium of nearly 70% compared with the closing price of the previous day. This news had a positive impact on the share price of Zero Run Automobile, which continued to rise in the transaction after the subscription agreement was announced.

Specifically, Zero Run Auto and Jinhua Industrial Fund reached an H-share subscription agreement. According to the agreement, Jinhua Industrial Fund will subscribe for H shares of no more than 200 million yuan. After the subscription is completed, the public shareholding of Zero Run Automobile will be about 51.55%. As for the subscription price, Zero Run Automobile said that the subscription price of H shares of Zero Run Automobile was higher than the average closing price of HK$ 28.31 in the five trading days before the signing of the agreement. Based on the closing price of HK$ 25.8 on January 19th, the premium of this subscription is nearly 70%. This news has had a positive impact on the share price of zero-run cars, and investors are optimistic about the future development prospects of zero-run cars.

At the same time, Zero Car also signed a subscription agreement for domestic shares with Wuyi County Jintou. According to the agreement, Wuyi County Jintou will subscribe for 10.035 million domestic shares. After the subscription is completed, the public shareholding of the zero-run car will further increase. For the subscription price, the announcement did not disclose more details. However, it is foreseeable that as the company gets more strategic investment and financial support, the share price of zero-run cars is expected to continue to rise.

Generally speaking, the success of the financing of Zero Run Auto not only brought a lot of financial support to the company, but also enhanced the company’s popularity and brand value. With the continuous development of the company’s business and the improvement of technical strength, investors are optimistic about the future development prospects of zero-run cars.

Therefore, it can be predicted that the possibility that the share price of zero-run cars will continue to rise in the future is not small, and behind this, the new high delivery volume of zero-run cars and the optimistic capital are indispensable.

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[Winter Olympics is coming] Beijing: Practical drill for alpine skiing center in response to extreme weather.

CCTV News:In these two days, Yanqing Division of Beijing Winter Olympics ushered in the first heavy snowfall this winter. In this cold wave weather, there was a complicated precipitation process from rain to sleet and then to snow. The snowfall lasted for 20 hours, and the accumulated snowfall reached blizzard. All teams in the National Alpine Ski Center seized this meteorological opportunity and conducted targeted drills and stress tests.

With the order of the Secretary-General of the National Alpine Ski Center, the "Ambulance Transfer Exercise in Ice and Snow Weather" officially began. In the windy and snowy weather, the medical business leader urgently dispatched three off-road vehicles from Beijing Emergency Center and relevant personnel in place, and quickly and safely transported the critically wounded from the athletes’ medical station to the designated hospital, successfully completing various transfer processes, and the exercise achieved the expected results.

Zhang Wenzhong, Director of Beijing Emergency Center:Generally speaking, we have a perceptual knowledge in our hearts after the whole process. First, the handover of patients; Second, we should do a good job of protection, and how to drive well in the snow, especially the possible bad weather, we should all think about it, and make full preparations before we can complete the task of protection.

Foreign Power: "World Factory" Guangdong promotes self-innovation

Reference News Network reported on December 19,On December 16th, Effie broadcast a report entitled "Guangdong: Self-innovation of the World Factory", and the reporter was jesus Centeno. The report is compiled as follows:
Guangdong is the "factory of the world", the economic center of China, and one of the major cultural and food treasures in China. As the province with the largest resident population in China, Guangdong is seeking to reinvent itself in the context of economic slowdown.
In Guangzhou, the capital of China’s southern province, labyrinthine department stores (offering everything from handicrafts and antiques to electronic products and fashion) are still competing with street fairs for consumers’ attention. These bargain-hunting consumers are looking for the best prices all over the city.
This year, the first year after the COVID-19 epidemic, China’s economy gradually recovered, although the recovery process was delayed.
"Our sales are not as much as expected … but we have seen a better trend." Ms. Zhang, a salesperson of an outdoor clothing store in Dongshankou, told Effie.
Ms. Zhang’s shop is competing with shopping centers and e-commerce in this city. The consumption of foreign tourists is one of the sources of income in this city, especially for the hotel industry.
Ms. Zhang said that many people gave up the clothing business and set up stalls on the street to provide local food.
Many tourists are attracted by Guangzhou’s rich cultural traditions, such as local monuments and theaters, or choose "red tourism" to visit the revolutionary holy land. Every day, many people come to visit the memorial hall of the site of the Third National Congress in the Communist Party of China (CPC) and take photos as a souvenir.
Guangdong is a model of reform and opening-up initiated by China in the late 1970s, and it is still the main export province and the main destination of foreign direct investment of this Asian giant.
"Many foreigners left during the epidemic. The market here is already very saturated and under great pressure, especially for small enterprises. But here, many things often depend on the connections you have. " Williams Ko Duthois Ku, a Sri Lankan who has been engaged in logistics and transportation services in Guangzhou for many years, said.
A young local woman selling jade added: "For local entrepreneurs, everything depends on the ability to find customers, especially in overseas markets."
At the same time, an official of the local foreign affairs department told reporters that after the impact caused by the pandemic, the retail industry and domestic demand are "fully recovering".
"We can be cautious that the situation will be better in 2024. We have invested a lot of energy in the development of rural areas and scientific and technological innovation. To this end, we are promoting the construction of Guangdong-Hong Kong-Macao Greater Bay Area and striving to integrate Guangdong with Hong Kong and Macao. " The official proudly emphasized that Guangzhou is one of the most important foreign trade ports in the history of China.
Guangdong province has a mild climate, low labor cost, strong industrial base and efficient logistics network, and is now committed to building itself into a major hub for digitalization and innovation.
According to local media reports, the province is "in a leading position in patents, trademark applications and technical projects". Shenzhen is the birthplace of Huawei, the world’s leading smartphone brand, Tencent, one of the world’s largest Internet companies, and DJI, a drone manufacturer. (Compile/Tian Ce)
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China football monopolizes the Korean team! The new president of the Football Association was embarrassed and lost his first victory.

China women’s football missed the Paris Olympic Games: China’s football failed. China women’s football finally ranked third in the group B of the women’s Asian regional qualifiers for the Paris Olympic Games, and ended up out together with the Korean women’s football. This failure is not only the failure of women’s football in China, but also the failure of football in China.

Song Kai, the new president of China Football Association, shouted that the first goal after taking office was to ensure that China women’s football team could advance to the Paris Olympic Games, but now he can’t even qualify for the group stage, which makes people question his leadership. Song Kai strengthened the leadership team after taking office, trying to make China women’s football team stand in the world football. However, this failure made people question his leadership.

Football is a team sport that needs more professional management and more competitive players. China’s football needs to change in order to gain a foothold in the world football. The outcome has long been doomed. As early as the loss to the Korean women’s football team, the qualifying situation of the China women’s football team has been decided. Even if the China women’s football team won the Korean women’s football team, it still missed the best second place.

This defeat was a great loss of face for the players of China women’s football team, and many people didn’t even have a chance to make up for it. After the game, many women football players in China shed tears, and the girls were very unwilling to lose in the Xie Chang session of the whole team. Perhaps the lack of sufficient competitiveness has shattered the dream of China women’s football team. The Olympic Games is one of the top events in the world, and every country will send the best athletes to participate.

China women’s football team needs more time and energy to improve its own level in order to have better results. In the group match, the Uzbek women’s football team beat the Indian women’s football team 3-0, and became the second best team with 6 points and 2 goal difference, and advanced to the next stage together with the Australian women’s football team, the Korean women’s football team and the Japanese women’s football team.

Uzbekistan’s women’s football team made China’s women’s football team desperate to the end, and people had to sigh the failure of China’s women’s football team. In a word, the China women’s football team missed the Paris Olympic Games, which is the failure of China football and Song Kai. China’s football needs to be changed, with more professional management and more competitive players, in order to gain a foothold in the world football.

I hope that China Women’s Football Team can learn from this failure and make persistent efforts to achieve better results in future competitions.

What are we talking about when we say that women are independent today?

Every year around International Women’s Day, "independent women" is a hot topic.

In the concept of "independent women", economic independence is often mentioned, while spiritual independence is easily ignored.In fact, in the eyes of psychologists, a woman’s real independence begins with spiritual independence.

External economic independence, internal spiritual independence, fullness and abundance, this is a heroic journey of female independence.

For a long time, generations of women have been pursuing independence.

All women face an important issue: what does independence mean? What is the standard of independence?

Independence must include the economic dimension, but also the independence and freedom of the spiritual dimension. We can witness such independent female spokespersons in various fields such as politics, business and culture.

In 1928, the British woman writer Woolf put forward: "If a woman wants to write a novel, she must have money and a room of her own."

Cover of A Room of My Own | Virginia Woolf (Woolf)

However, due to the limitations of the times, society and culture,Many women’s independence in economic and spiritual dimensions is unbalanced. Like two runways, one is 100 meters long and the other is 50 meters long.

The road of spiritual independence, which is half short, is not easy to walk. It requires women to bravely walk out of the family of origin behind them, psychologically separate from their parents, truly become their own individualization, and move towards an open and creative world.

According to psychologists, a woman’s real independence begins with spiritual independence, not economic independence. The cornerstone of spiritual independence is laid in the early life.

"An independent woman, first of all, is a woman with subjectivity. She knows her truth as a woman and has been exploring and advancing." Psychoanalyst Lin Cuiping’s portrait of independent women is:Dare to love and hate, dare to say and do, dare to be responsible, dare to say yes and no, dare to be willful, dare to be overbearing, dare to be "bad" and dare to be "shameless".Of course, both "bad" and "shameless" here need to be explained: "bad" means that you can break through the shackles of "how should you" that bind your vitality and do something out of the box; "Shameless" means to make your thin face thicker, and to think that what you think and do is so destructive that others can’t stand it and make the world worse. In fact, women can be brave, do what they want and live the life they want.

"If a woman longs for independence, she needs to establish a real ideal. That is, what kind of woman I want to be, what is the significance of my existence in the world, and there must be such an ideal level of pursuit. " Wang Ran, a psychoanalyst, believes that it is this ideal that is far away and can be worked hard for, which leads a woman to embark on her own road of independence, and undertakes the responsibility of choice, possible setbacks and even risks for this ideal.

Zhen Hongli, a female sexual health clinic expert and doctor of medical psychology at Beijing Wuzhou Women’s Hospital, said: "I very much agree that women’s independence is first and foremost spiritual independence." When she was a girl, she established the direction of studying sexology, and gradually became clear about her ideal of seeking "sexual happiness" for depressed China people. "This ideal has not changed." Zhen Hongli insisted on making podcasts, recording AIDS prevention videos for college students, and telling the sensitive organs of the human body from her mouth was as generous and calm as saying eyes and nose, which made many listeners no longer ashamed of their love and desire.

Another important characteristic of spiritual independence is independent thinking and independent thinking."It takes a lot of courage to stand up and face your enemies, but it takes more courage to stand up and face your friends." J.K. Rowling, a female writer who has created a magnificent magical world, has recently been involved in a huge cyber storm because she opposes transgender people who have not had sex surgery to enter the women’s toilet; Even while celebrating the 20th anniversary of Harry Potter, she was expelled from the wizarding world, and several leading actors broke with her. But she still firmly made her voice: I can’t agree to admit transgender people so easily, and we should protect women’s basic personal rights from possible infringement. Dong Rufeng, a psychological counselor, said: "A woman with subjectivity will think independently, have her own opinions, and make a brave voice for the truth and value she believes;" Even in the face of strong social pressure and threats from others, I will not give up the courage to express my voice. "

Facebook | @JKRowling

Zou Qin, a psychoanalyst, believes that it is the only way for a woman to become an independent person to cross Oedipus complex, that is, whether we have separated from our own family of origin and completed the separation and individualization.

"In the family, a woman has to go through such a psychological process: the first person she loves is her mother. When she was two or three years old, she turned from her mother’s arms to her father. Finally, she gave up her desire and fantasy for her father and returned to her mother to identify with her and develop her own femininity." Zou Qin said that in this process, the mother needs to be in office, and the parenting before the girl is two or three years old is enough before she can turn to her father; Moreover, the girl’s turning to her father also needs her father to be in office and functional. "The road for women from girls to women is longer than that for boys. According to western scholars, when a boy was about 3 years old, he entered the Oedipus period and was castrated, so the Oedipus complex ended and he became a man. But it will take many years for a girl to go this way, and she may not be able to pass until she is 9 to 10 years old.If there is a father or mother who is not in power, many girls will get stuck here, separation and individualization will not be completed, and she will not be able to become an independent woman. "

Zou Qin said that this is also the reason why many women encounter difficulties in the workplace, interpersonal relationships or intimate relationships. Further analysis, tracing back to the source, will find that she is in the position of being "captured" by her mother or father and enjoying her, she must exist as the object of her mother, or she is in a position of competing with her mother, or her father did not give her a gentle and firm rejection and affectionate feelings without temptation, which all caused the pain that the girl and her parents could not be separated. Women may grow up to their thirties and forties, and their minds are like a little girl. In all kinds of relationships, they are looking for their mothers’ arms and their fathers’ eyes. In all kinds of people and situations, psychological dramas of projection and recognition are constantly staged, but they cannot break through.

So, what exactly is an independent woman? Zou Qin believes that after a girl passes Oedipus, she not only recognizes her mother’s femininity, but also internalizes her father’s strength, so she can leave her parents and go her own way. She can not only create vivid life experiences, but also go to another man to love and be loved.

For many women, the road of women’s independence is likely to be long; If the integration with parents is too deep, even reaching the level of "seizing the house" in The Untamed, long-term psychoanalysis may be needed to complete the separation and individualization in a safe and functional relationship. Bruni, the famous French model and the wife of former President Sarkozy, once admitted in an interview that she had done psychoanalysis for eight years. Lin Xiaoping said that in fact, today, having your own psychoanalyst is a new ICON for women’s independence.

Harper’s Bazaar US | Carla Bruni (Bruni)

Here, the most important thing is to realize that our excessive integration with our parents may make us stay in the little girl’s mind after adulthood; It’s time to embark on an independent journey of powerful women.

A woman who has not completed the separation and individualization from her parents is likely to encounter difficulties in all aspects of her life after she becomes an adult.

In the workplace, she may have high achievements, but she can’t enjoy them; Because she didn’t harvest these achievements for herself, she wanted to sacrifice them to her parents.

In intimate relationships, the difficulties she encountered are even more prominent. She may be in the position of an abused victim or a garbage object, unable to have self-worth, truly get happiness, and unable to leave those bad relationships; Or, she longs for intimacy, but she can’t enter intimacy, and she can’t trust herself to deserve it.

In real life, regardless of age, there are still many women who dream of princesses, and they fall into the Chinese and foreign sweet pet dramas of "overbearing presidents fall in love with me". They fantasize about a man who is like a father, a brother, a lover and a warrior. He overcomes thousands of difficulties and rides a white horse to meet himself in a super run, and he loves himself unconditionally and comprehensively like a mother. He is also very rich, all kinds of ups and downs are blocked, and he can even block a knife and even sacrifice his life for himself at a critical moment. "This is an idealized dream." Lin Cuiping said, "The overbearing president is also an idealized man who can’t exist. He is an ideal father and an ideal mother in one. This is a dream of a little girl who is eager to integrate with her parents."

Some women have passively become accessories of a man, or even become "disappearing women", and have to bear unequal relationships and even endure the humiliation of men’s constant infidelity. In the film and television drama, in the divorce announced by celebrities and officials, such a relationship model is not uncommon around us. Psychoanalyst Wang Ran thinks: "We (women) have actually been shaped as the objects of men’s desires. This position is very uncomfortable. In fact, a man will not always be attracted by a woman who has no subjectivity and is only an object, but he will be attracted by a woman who has subjectivity and works hard, or other women with different styles; At this time, a good wife and mother and a woman as an accessory will find that they have lost a lot. In fact, we are both objects and subjects, and we are both subjects and objects with men, so that there can be a truly equal discourse exchange. "

How does a truly independent woman love? Zou Qin said: "I think of Shu Ting’s famous poem" To the Oak Tree ",which describes’ I must be a kapok near you/stand with you as the image of a tree, cling to the ground/leaves, touch in the clouds …’ It gives a vivid and accurate image of an independent woman’s intimate relationship.When women are really independent in spirit, they will be brave and devoted to love, and they will be loved happily and happily, constantly creating more possibilities in intimate relationships; She is not afraid to rely on, but will defend her own boundaries and respect others’ boundaries.Zou Qin believes that the marriage between diving star Guo Jingjing and Huo Qigang is a very good example. As a tree, she stands side by side with another tree.

Weibo | @ Guo Jingjing

Lin Cuiping:

"Let’s try to answer an important question: Who am I?"

Lin Cuiping, a psychoanalyst, is planning a salon where everyone who comes to the salon can talk about "who am I" as the main body. She said that this question is a compulsory question for every woman’s spiritual independence.

"Just as I asked my father to give me a place, my father just said that I am his daughter and will be a man’s wife and the mother of the child in the future. I asked my mother, who am I? She will only tell me that I am the sun of our family, and my mission is to be a big lady, but that is my mother’s lost female symbol, not me. Since my father died at the age of 29, I have embarked on my own road of female independence, from China to tavistock, England, and then to Paris, France, looking for my own answer.

"I think, we will exist in our own way, not determined by the words and rhetoric of others, not defined by comparison next to people who are used as reference, we are customized; We should speak in various ways and answer: as a subject of life, who am I, what is my desire, and what I think is meaningful in my life.

"Many women are afraid that starting independence will make them lose the symbolic value of women. That’s not true. Women’s independence and gender symbols can coexist. So, don’t be afraid. Saying goodbye to the old identity will bring us anxiety, fear and panic, but once we open the road to independence, we will gain joy and freedom to embrace the new identity. Not only will you not lose your female symbol, on the contrary, you will have more-Leopard can be used to describe the new life that this independent new identity brings to women: it is safe, sexy, aggressive and impulsive, but also fashionable, attractive, loving and loved, trusting and creative, and at the same time free and lively. "

The road to women’s independence is diverse and rich, and every woman can choose the path that suits her personality. The following are three paths that psychologists believe that most women can experience in their own lives-

1. Be brave to talk about a great love;Many women have this experience: a love, a marriage, regardless of its outcome, is often an important gift to awaken their lives. Partnership is one of the most intimate relationships in the world. A devoted relationship and the people we love can often play the role of therapists. In love, we don’t meet a person by accident; In the great love legend, there is a love navigation map that has long been engraved in the heart.When we recognize and deeply connect with another life, love and be loved, the experience we once had from our caregivers in the early life is likely to be activated and healed.

Of course, we are also likely to fall into a pattern of compulsive repetition in one relationship after another, and may continue to enter the same kind of weak, rescued or abused partnership; But it also reminds us that there are potholes that need to be repaired somewhere.

2. Find your own language by writing:In today’s self-media era, writing has become a creative activity that every woman who has received language education can participate in. Through writing, countless women become editors, journalists, photographers and editors-in-chief of their own life experiences.

"Writing is also a very important way for women’s spiritual independence." Lin Cuiping believes that just as the unconscious is formed like language, writing externalizes a woman’s inner world through language, in the form of poems, comments, reports or first-person monologues. Writing is like a river, and language moves forward in a mighty and endless stream. Observing today’s female writing, the styles are very diverse. Many women write about their family, growth history, father and mother, their own choices, dreams and even fantasies. Through such writing, in these writing and speech, women’s subject and body are present, and their emotions and existence are present.

"These betting women’s life experiences are the wealth of every woman." Lin Cuiping said, more importantly,Female writing helps women find their own language and presents the subjectivity of "who am I" to the whole world.

3. Invest in and create a life:Every woman is a creator. "Creating changes human beings, living creatively makes us mature and confident, and opens up new life possibilities." Lin Cuiping said.

It can be a runaway trip without asking the destination, going through a traffic tunnel like sea, land and air, and putting yourself in another unexpected time and place; This will make a life subject clearly experience his own independent existence, and it is also an introspective dialogue with himself and nature.

It can be touching clay with hands, planting flowers and plants, rotating a door, and painting a landscape … and then, it will grow into a rich and brand-new experience. Dedicated and creative life can happen every day and night, in cities and villages, theaters and vegetable markets …

You can also create a large or small company, or design architecture, home, clothing or web pages, or dress up every imaginary image on a simple face, just like giving birth to a child.

It can be dancing. Nietzsche said: "Every day that never dances is a disappointment to life." Our body is a treasure, with beautiful voice, inner scenery and rich melody. Listening to ourselves in our body will make every woman realize.

At the same time, create beauty and charm. "Beauty is what everyone pursues. Beautiful clothes and beautiful things, why should we refuse?The first canvas for a woman to create beauty is her own body; Every woman’s dress actually embodies her own beautiful spiritual structure. Our clothes are an extension of her own spirit, and of course, our faces and makeup."Wang Ran said," in the process of making ourselves shine, don’t immerse yourself in the eyes of others and don’t be domesticated by such eyes; We should open the dimension of beauty, and freely transform among the diversified and beautiful styles, such as luxury beauty, simple beauty, sexy beauty, natural beauty and design beauty.


The original text was published in the March issue of Bazaar.

Editor: Li Jin

Interview and writing: Yu Ling (national second-level psychological counselor)

Typesetting: Yuer, miffy

Psychologist support/psychoanalyst, counselor:

Lin Cuiping, Zou Qin, Wang Ran, Dong Rufeng

Toutu Photography/Hu Wenbo @KStudio

Editor, Image/Yu Kun K’

Makeup/Lugen Lucas

Hairstyle /TK WANG

Model/Ruiqi Jiang @ Longteng Elite

Fashion coordinator/steamed stuffed bun

Fashion Assistant /TanyaYu, Adan

Appreciation of French painter Edouard Bisson’s Female Paintings

Edouard Bisson (1856 -1939) is a French painter, who is mainly famous for his portraits of women. He first studied art in Paris and was influenced by impressionism and realism. Bisson’s female paintings usually present soft and gentle expressions and gestures. He is good at capturing the elegance, gentleness and inner strength of women. Through fine brushwork and delicate painting skills, their faces and bodies are portrayed. His female paintings show a romantic, soft and elegant atmosphere.

Lady in Blue

A young woman in red with a long gaze.

The Mandolin Player.

Bisson pays attention to the accurate description of details when painting women. He is good at capturing the change of light and the texture of fabrics, giving vivid details to women’s clothing and accessories. Whether it is a soft gauze skirt, a gorgeous hat or exquisite jewelry, he can draw it with exquisite skill.

The Caress of a Summer.

A Young Beauty with a Wreath of Roses.

An Allegory of Spring

Message d ‘amour

Autumn stem (The swing)

Autumn stem (The swing)

The Dance of the Nymphs.

Bisson’s female paintings show rich emotions. Some works express women’s tenderness and tenderness, while others show their thinking, introspection, melancholy or serenity. He conveyed all kinds of emotions and inner world through women’s facial expressions and gestures.

The three Graces.

Some of these works depict children with wings, which are often called "Angel Child". Angel children often appear beside female characters in Bisson’s paintings, perhaps dancing with them, playing with them or listening to their voices. This image conveys a feeling of innocence, purity and softness, emphasizes the pursuit of beauty and the desire to transcend the secular world, and also adds a romantic and mysterious atmosphere to the work.

As a symbolic image, angel children can also be interpreted as a projection of the artist himself. Angel children represent the artist’s inner innocence and creativity, as well as the pursuit of inspiration and imagination.

Asking cards (Demandez aux cartes)

A Windy Day (a windy day)

Sitting by the Sea

Bisson’s depiction of women’s clothes, hairstyles and accessories in his paintings shows the fashionable style and aesthetics at that time.

Bisson’s female paintings pay attention to delicate facial expressions and fluency of posture. Through accurate painting skills and careful observation, he captured women’s emotions and inner world and created works with emotional resonance.

Generally speaking, Edouard Bisson’s female paintings show his unique understanding and expression of female beauty. With soft colors and painting skills, he created romantic, elegant and mysterious female images, which immersed the audience in the beauty and inner strength of women.

# Article Starting Challenge #

Women who have seen the world: don’t wear gold and silver, don’t spend money on clothes, don’t curl their hair, and they are elegant and temperament when they are old.

Envy those women who are not affected by age, but still have extraordinary temperament even when they are getting older. Instead of envy, it is better to learn how to look up to them and learn more about how these elegant women dress themselves up every day. I believe you can also make a big change.

Do remember! Women who have seen the world will not wear gold and silver, clothes and hair, because to be a temperament woman, it is necessary to be exquisite from beginning to end, without a detail. If you operate like this, it will be difficult to be elegant until you are old!

It can be elegant when you are old, and it is analyzed in three parts:

The first part, hairstyle-don’t curl your hair at will

(i) Several negative cases of curly hair:

① instant noodles

The curling degree of instant noodles is exaggerated, and if it is not taken care of well, it will also cause a messy effect. Moreover, the instant noodle head directly enlarges the head, making the face of the head look very big. This hairstyle will become aunt as soon as it is left, especially without makeup.

② explosive head

The explosive head is a more exaggerated hairstyle based on the instant noodle head, which may be a combination of high bulkiness and instant noodle head. In short, leaving this hairstyle will only make people feel that you are a second-dimensional person, not everyday, and there is no beauty at all.

③ Wool roll

Wool rolls have higher requirements for hair quantity, and people with less hair quantity will be more suitable. If the hair is a little careless, it will become the type of explosive head, so it is easy to make the overall image sloppy and unfocused, and it is easy to split.

(2) Keep a natural hairstyle that pays attention to fluffy feeling.

1. Collarbone micro-curly hair

The length of the clavicle is the least height-conscious, and staying tall and short will not affect the proportion of the whole person. Moreover, with the range of micro-curls, the hair will look less stiff and add a lot of foreign flavor. More importantly, it can highlight the lines of the neck and clavicle, which will visually make the upper body thinner.

Shoulder-length natural straight hair

Straight hair about the length of the shoulder has a sense of lightness between the length and the length. It retains the conciseness and comfort of short hair, but also brings the exquisiteness and femininity close to that of long hair. In addition, it is a more natural straight hair, and the overall image will appear more elegant and temperament.

3. Short straight hair over the ear.

Short hair just over the ears is very capable and exquisite. If it doesn’t exceed the ears, it will look too masculine. The overall image is biased towards men’s style and has no femininity. This kind of short straight hair concentrates the sense of refinement and comfort, and can also show the slender lines of the neck on the side, which has different advantages for people with long or short necks.

The second part, wearing-not gaudy.

A focus on taste should be good at subtracting clothing.

(1) The style of clothes emphasizes texture rather than design.

We should be good at wearing basic clothes and bottoms, and reject all styles with surface design, such as prints and three-dimensional elements! And the quality should also be checked, and it will be expensive when you wear it.

The soft wool of woolen coat, the drooping feeling created by the three-dimensional thickness of jeans, or the softness and delicacy of simple matching sweaters, each single product can achieve a very fine sense of high-end quality, and there will be no frivolity and no sense of inferiority. Both sets are very simple to wear, but they are enough to appear very advanced in taste.

For example, when we choose the simplest shirt, we must choose a material that is not easy to wrinkle and deform. This silky material with a pearly feel will refract light and shadow on the upper body and will not be easily affected by external forces. It is best to match it with suits and pants with the same strong sense of drooping, so that the whole will develop in a smooth and flat direction.

⑵ Simple collocation is clear at a glance.

This follows the effective combination of tightness, depth and softness. Seemingly plain minimalist collocation, but you can see that the dark slim top of the upper body is outstanding for slimming; At the same time, the stiff material of the lower body is also very stylish, and the outline of the legs is out. Paired with a wide tube of trouser legs, it is in sharp contrast with the slim upper body, and it can also cover all kinds of shortcomings in the legs, so as to be slim and tall with confidence.

The combination of black and white in color and the same sense of material make this set very convincing. Full of neutral and heroic beauty, stiff sweaters and suit pants, as well as classic and soft black and white complement each other. You don’t need to decorate it, just concave a shape is full of high-grade feeling!

(2) Be good at finding some color combinations with high sense.

-advanced colors are not dark or bright, and there must be a bright side in color matching.

Like these deep black, gray blue, etc., they are old-fashioned colors when they are worn. Young women wear them without vitality, while older women wear them more old-fashioned, which is not suitable in short; There is also a fluorescent color with brightness and no texture. Although it is bright when worn, it is also very tacky.

(1) light color and cold color with advanced beauty upgrade.

The color of the cold feeling is biased towards the winter atmosphere, and most of the colors are blue-green or gray, etc. When matched with light colors, the upper body will have a shiny feeling. Moreover, the combination of dark gray suppresses this cold temperament, and the light color is just right, which even magnifies the advantages of cool color.

⑵ The combination of dark color and warm color shows the beauty of foreign color difference.

Warm colors are different, and they have enough eye-catching strength. Just showing warm colors is already very foreign. Matching with light colors will weaken the fashion sense of this contrast, but using deep colors as the background board will immediately highlight the bright eyes of these warm colors, and the eye-catching parts will be seen immediately after a comparison.

The third part, accessories-don’t wear gold and silver

(1) The inclusiveness of gold and silver is too small.

A sense of high class needs a certain clothing style to match.

A slight increase in style and details will be exaggerated or rustic.

Accessories made of gold and silver are generally set off by formal or grand clothes, and clothes that are too simple and casual are somewhat out of place with these accessories. And especially gold, the style should be chosen very carefully. If you exaggerate a little, you will wear it very rustic.

(2) It is easier to directly select images with elegant and advanced temperament.

(1) representative accessories with quality can be grasped at a glance.

A watch is a single item that can best show a person’s fashion taste.Senior people will definitely choose watches for jewelry decoration. There are many grades of watches, and expensive watches can even buy a suite, so look closely at those who have taste, or those who have money, and prefer to study watches.

Bags are also a fashion weapon that can easily show the taste and texture.Cheap bags and expensive bags can be reflected not only from the brand logo, but also from the material and workmanship. Even if you wear simple and simple clothes, you can’t stop your sense of high-grade when you carry your expensive bag out of the door.

⑵ "Soft accessories" have more choices.

The ornament of accessories is not only gold, silver and jewelry to achieve a sense of high quality, but also soft peripheral elements can actually play a very good role in ornament.Hats, shawls, scarves or belts,They all belong to soft accessories that can play a plus role.

Learn from women who have seen the world, and they will never wear gold and silver, or make their hair styles and clothes fancy. Everything is simple and elegant, so that they can be so elegant and elegant until they are old.